It's time again for another "Getting better dates in Boulder" post!
Today we're going to be discussing the perils of (and lessons learned from) dating idiots, losers, bums, neer-do-wells, miscreants and other sub-standard men.
You know they're out there...these men. Why, with the sheer concentration of males with such low intelligence yet such high sex drives, it makes things nearly impossible for a sophisticated and classy woman such as yourself to expect success in your love life.
Right?!
Right.
So here are 5 easy steps that YOU (yes, YOU) can follow to ensure that your odds of staying clear of spineless, broke, intellectually bereft morons are high:
1. Do not entertain e-mail offers for 'just coffee' that also include attached pictures of male genitalia.
Ladies, this should go without saying, but it seems I have to lay some ground rules in order to make sure my advice doesn't fall on deaf ears. If a guy sends you an e-mail just wanting 'coffee sometime', yet has also went to the effort of attaching a snapshot of his man bits, just...click...delete. Trust me. The kind of 'coffee' he's referring to probably isn't a variety you'd like. Just a hunch.
2. Learn to identify the patterns of the man who just wants sex.
This is actually a very easy thing to do. When you receive correspondence from a potential date, and if you're interested in finding out if this guy just wants to get his rocks off or not, simply count the number of times the following words are used in his e-mails to you:
sex
sexy
sex kitten
sex doll
sex toys
sex starved
sex change
sex crazed
sexytime (imagine this being said in a Borat accent)
sexify
sexcapade (immediate red flag)
sexual
etc.
If any of the above are used more than once in any given paragraph, click delete. This should solve the problem and narrow down your prospects well.
3. Never, ever, ever, ever, assume that the guy who uses big words actually knows their meanings.
If there's one thing that I hear all the time from the thousands of beautiful women who call me daily with their dating woes, it's their disappointment in meeting men who initially seem well-spoken and intellectual only to find that they're really mouth-breathing heathens who can't string an sentence in English together to save their lives.
Example: when a man types, "I really like existentialism. It's implications really enthuse my mental capacities," click delete.
4. Stop thinking there are men out there who actually WON'T try to kiss you by the third date.
This is a reality check, girls. Guys...want...1st...base...by...date...3. Maybe not today, maybe not tomorrow, but by at LEAST the third date you will be subjected to the potentially uncomfortable experience of having to make a decision as to whether or not to kiss the man standing before you, perhaps slightly buzzed from beer and hopeful.
Know your end game before you start playing. The cocktail of male hormones that course through a man's veins while he is in the company of an attractive woman is a very dangerous thing.
5. Use the 1-in-10 ratio when forming expectations about the men you meet on the internet.
This is simple math. Because of the sheer density of lowlife, degenerate men who play on the internet, you must expect that only 1 out of every 10 men you 'meet' this way will end up being even worth considering as a potential mate.
So...when you get 150 responses to your 'innocent' craigslist posting, know that only 15 of them are probably worth even opening.
That's it! I tell you now, if you put these simple steps to good use TODAY, you can start relishing in your dating success TOMORROW.
Thanks for reading and do let me know what sort of experiences you have. Being a hot, single Boulder guy gets old and I need your accounts of dating folly to keep things fresh.
Toodles!
4 comments:
So googling "advice on internet dating from hot, single Boulder men" I happened across your blog and thought I could get some insight from you.
As an independent, sophisticated, classy woman, I look to achieve success in all of my endeavors, and am rarely disappointed. Not for a lack of high goals, but rather an open view of expectations. I find pleasure in any fashion of new adventures.
Men lacking in intelligence and ambition are bothersome, a waste of my revered time, and yet a fact of life. And while believing in myself to possess the discerning, sharp mind to be able to identify such seedy and threadbare characters, a woman is subject to their annoying muses every so often.
Unfortunately, I feel those attributes you highlight in your post do not enlighten this single, desirable Boulder woman as to any of the possibly less obvious signs to be sure to avoid.
For example: if a man does only agree to 'just coffee' minus the perfectly posed genitalia; does this indicate a self confidence issue, a fear of commitment, or something else?
What does it mean if one poses the idea of sexistentialism?
Is there a sublime innocence in a first date kiss?
Would a worthwhile man then expect to receive a subsequent kiss, or possibly more, if second and third dates were to follow?
If after viewing 1500 personal ad posts over several years merely for amusement value, a woman ventures to answer JUST ONE, what kind of rational expectations could she have?
As a human delighted in the folly of experience, I look forward to your acumenial advice.
p.s. I just made up that big word!
Yes, very tired of dating losers. Where do you find the balance between emotionally stable, intellectualy stable, sexually stable, finacially stable (I could go on here)?
Dating in and of itself is not worth the time any more. No one wants to invest emotionally. We have computers and cell phones to get our point across any more and without the involvement of emotion. So why bother.
And with all the choices out there, why limit yourself to one significant other any way. You can internet date, go out in the world and meet someone plan a date, call up and chat line in any city and book a date..........
I challenge you to find THE person who honestly fits all of your criteria! In our society of 50% divorce rate, rising prices on staple necessities, and unbridled advertising, who can honestly state that they have it all together?
Stability is subjective. The key is emotional, intellectual, sexual, and financial RESPONSIBILITY. Finding THE person(s) who is(are) taking it all in their best stride and can fill in the blanks you're missing.
"Dating," significantly different than "having a relationship," gives the opportunity to learn about yourself - what your standards and compromises can be. The emotional investment comes with respect, trust, and time...NEVER limit yourself!
Such advice from someone who hasn't even cleared 30 yet :)
Perhaps someday when you get to my side of the fence you'll understand that what you think you know all about, you really didn't know at all :)
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